Category Archives: Dating Advice

The Game

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"It’s easy to have faith in yourself and discipline when you’re a winner, when you’re No. 1. What you’ve got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not yet a winner."

– Vince Lombardi, football coach

Perhaps the most important life choice you make will be the partner you choose. You’ll likely want the most attractive, the best character and disposition to live with and wake up to. In order to find your attractive best mate you’ll need to play a top-notch game to maximize your choices. You need high self-esteem to believe you deserve a 9 or 10 rate female of the species.

If you suffer from low-self esteem you’ll feel you don’t deserve the best and not try for the exceptional. If you’re game isn’t up to par, you’ll have difficulty even with the 7’s.

Be Cool, Not Over The Top

If you’re too slick you’ll get shot down as a sleeze bag. Be careful not to go too over the top and earn a creepy tag by overly bragging or being nerdy technical or overly aggressive getting into someone’s personal space without building on the primary attraction blocks first.

You need to build attraction first before moving on. Skipping the primary give and take banter by stepping on the throttle will get you banned. Being assertive and uptight and not relaxed will get anyone on edge as well as being physically invasive on first contact.

By laying back not being pushy, being cool you get the attraction mojo establishing in her mind that you are of a higher perceived value, that she as more to gain from you than you from her.

The Prize Catch

Like in any marketing effort, the object has to be desirable. In this case it’s you. It’s important to women – damn important – that they are after a prize catch, not a wuss or a bag of hot air. If you have a full head of hair, tall, good looking, good build that’s great.

To live up to a prize catch, you have to show leadership. No attractive woman wants a doormat type of guy always seeking her approval. You need to take a strong lead and decide where to go, when to go, how to go … and so on. On the dance floor you follow the beat only you can hear and do your own thing, she can follow it or not. And so with life. In all aspects of life you need to project yourself as the captain of the ship. Certain areas you can delegate, but you be the dance leader.

Have ideas and suggestions. Don’t be always asking, "where do you want to go? What do you want to do? You decide, it’s your choice." Take the power ball and don’t pass it back to the woman. You decide and suggest.

 

 

 

"It’s easy to have faith in yourself and discipline when you’re a winner, when you’re No. 1. What you’ve got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not yet a winner." -

Attraction Chemistry

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Whining is a call to feel sorry for yourself. Little boys do it. Men shouldn’t.

No one likes to hear others whine and women especially don’t want to hear grown men whine. It’s a big turn  off, an unattractive downer.

Whining shows no responsibility for you actions. If it’s a trait that graps hold of you at times,you have to become completely intolerant  of that mode of expression.

Sever contact with anyone who on a continual basis whines. Don’t associate with them. Find other to hang with. This stuff rubs off and you don’t want to get infected. If you suffer of it, cure yourself. Pull the switch. Shut it off.

It’s all over the media, in music, in print — you get saturated with this  dribble. But shut it off and listen to things that lend themselves to learning new things, developing new skills and other areas of successful endeavor.

It’s important in building your attractive character to stay away from the whine, not the wine.

"Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos – the trees, the clouds, everything."
–Thich Nhat Hanh

Attraction is all or nothing. Either you know how to create it or you’re dead. We pull all the stops so you learn it well.

Consumer Reports weigh in on Internet Dating

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I’ve been a fan and have read Consumer Reports for years. They are unbiased, do not accept advertising and operate in a fashion that is unbiased. You can buy your way into the many a web and business rating service but not the Consumer Reports.

Consumer Reports likes eHarmony, Match.com and Yahoo Personals.

They suggest to try eHarmony if you favor matches "closer to handpicked"

If you’re there for the basics, Yahoo Personals and Match.com are the next best bet eHarmony and Yahoo Personals have a compatibility test which pair you up with likes and dislikes issures.

Consumer Reports suggest that you set up a private email account with Hotmail, Google or some independent email company so you can monitor your email. Otherwise you get everything tangled up in you personal Inbox.